Full-timers: Husband wants to downsize RV; wife says no


Dear RV Shrink:rvshrink
We have been living in our fifth wheel for just over a year. We’ve been to many wonderful places we’ve always dreamed of visiting. My wife and I love this lifestyle and have adjusted well to living in a small space in comparison to our home.

I keep talking about downsizing even more into a smaller rig and my wife will have none of it. My reasoning is gas savings, getting into areas with length restrictions, and traveling roads that will not accommodate our big rig and truck. Gas prices are rising, we couldn’t get into Chiricahua National Monument in Arizona because of our length, and the River Road into Big Bend National Park was a nail biter.

Do you think she is being closed-minded, or should I just be happy with what we have and stop trying to readjust our mode of transportation. —Morph and Mindy at Montezuma Castle

Dear M & M:
There are no right or wrong answers to your question. There are so many variations to the rigs that people are traveling in today and it has created a new pastime. You will notice people walking the campgrounds at night looking at other rigs and reevaluating the decisions they have made or would like to make. It is very natural to want to adjust or morph into something different.

Since you have just started to travel, your perspective is beginning to change as you add more pieces to your experience puzzle. Everyone has different travel styles and interests. You just have to work together to find your niche. It is fun to observe and study others and see if parts of their lifestyle would work for you.

I have met people happier than a corn borer in a peach in the smallest Casita and the biggest motorhome. Recently I met a couple with a semi tractor with a smart car on the back, pulling a fifth wheel, pulling a trailer full of ORVs. They were parked next to a really interesting guy full-timing on a bicycle with a one-man Hilleberg tent. Both seemed equally high on life.

Sometimes all we need is an attitude adjustment. Don’t make any quick decisions, but continue to dialog and dream. You may never get it completely right, but the journey is often much more interesting than the destination, both geographically and mentally. —Keep Smilin’, Richard Mallery a.k.a. Dr. R.V. Shrink

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4 Thoughts to “Full-timers: Husband wants to downsize RV; wife says no”

  1. Darrel

    Every time you change rigs you spend more money. Work real hard when and if you change rigs to find your forever rig. That means quality and “bones” over flash.

  2. Marvin Thomasson

    I’d suggest visiting all the RV shows and touring all kinds of RV’s. We started in a 30′ class C without slides, went to a 34′ 5th wheel, then to a 29′ class A, and finally to a 35′ Class A. Each had it’s upside and served a purpose for it’s time. We’ve remodel our 35′ footer, and we’ll likely stay in it because it meets our mutual needs. Keep an open mind and you may find something you both really like. A happy wife is a happy life. P.S. our 5th wheel was a pain to park and the big truck wasn’t easy to park or drive through city streets, but it sure felt like I was king of the road!

  3. Alaska Traveler

    We started in a 32’ motorhome, moved down into a truck camper, then into a small 5th wheel. The next was a 36’ toyhauler 5th wheel. We loved it! Was too manual for the hubby so we tried one more time in a 39’ toyhauler with auto jacks, a fireplace, 2nd bathroom and four TV’s……we watch only one occasionally. We’ve full timed for almost 10 years and put no less than 8000 miles on our rigs every year. We talk about going smaller but I doubt we will unless we stop traveling so much….

  4. Elaine Schuster

    Maybe you could travel in areas where you are parked with just your tow vehicle? If that is too big, maybe you could rent a car for a day or two to explore.

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